Weekly tip: Give compliments

I don’t know about other cultures enough to be sure, but in my country giving compliments (and actually receiving too!) is one of the most difficult things in human interaction. In some ways I value the modest mindset we have here, but in others it’s pure madness!

One of my friends is terribly good at this. She may tell a completely random person in some ladies room that they have the cutest shoes she ever saw. And I totally love her for that! I think it’s just the way she is, though spending a lot of years living abroad in Latin America might have enforced the habit to her advantage I’d say.

I wanted to follow in her footsteps, because it just makes me so happy seeing the other person smile at the compliments!

I hesitated a bit, but my opportunity came one night at a local supermarket where the cashier was so pretty in her black hair, redredred lipstick and cool tattoos. So I told her that I really like her style and the response was a very spontanious smile and a “thanks”! 

I’d like to think I made her evening slightly more tolerable as her posture seemed to change after this incident. 

Especially customer work can sometimes be really exhausting, so any positive feedback is certainly welcome.

So I will resolve to give compliments, not only to friends and family, but to random people crossing paths with me too.

These hugging cats make me remember to be kind

Weekly Tip: The One Minute Rule

Wait for it…. The life-changing magic of the one minute rule is that you really get an amazing deal of stuff to happen and it ends up feeling like you’ve spent zero minutes doing boring chores!

I am mainly using this tactic to keep up with a tidying routine, but you can find a lot more on Gretchen Rubin’s blog (yes, yes, I am a fan): http://gretchenrubin.com/happiness_project/2006/12/need_a_simple_a/

Whenever I feel like I would just like to leave my plate on the dining table instead of taking it to the kitchen, I remind myself “it takes less than a minute now, but when I have 10 plates, it’s serious work.”

Go and try, it’s great!

Weekly Tip: Have a “Power Song”

I have two passions in my life that I have carried with me since the beginning of times. Sometimes closer to heart, sometimes further, but nevertheless, they were there.

In addition to my (perhaps obvious) passion in writing, I love music. Like, can’t understand how someone can go without listening to any. Like, does not fit in my head how someone could not get a kick out of listening to it. And it doesn’t have to be the top100 songs of today. I have gone through all kinds of phases looking for the music to fit my soul at any given moment.

And when it comes to music, I like pretty much it all (except perhaps the Finnish national gem: metal, sorry folks). I have had a Snoop Dogg phase, I have had a Mozart phase, a Beatles, a Madonna, a techno, a jazz, an african rythms phase, a… Well, you get the point.

The only tv shows I really watch anymore are singing contests. E.g. watched every season of American Idol that ever aired in Finland (oh yes, I am a huge country fan too!) and that was a lot of years.

Because of my instantly switching taste in music, my power songs vary through the years aswell. But I always have a few. For example I have realized that when my head is full of things to remember, I tend to navigate towards up-beat popsongs (a genre I usually don’t care that much for). 

A power song is the song that instantly lifts your mood and makes you feel better (not necessarily up-beat songs always!). The song that you do not get tired of, even if you listen to it on repeat for a year.

My power songs of late are:

Paula Vesala – Älä droppaa mun tunnelmaa https://open.spotify.com/track/69swdPHM0bC1zPRrFhvEI5

Daughtry – Waiting for Superman – https://open.spotify.com/track/4AU7z13HYmPMetlWbq1mys

Enter Shikari – Gandhi Mate, Gandhi – https://open.spotify.com/track/45dDchfPSB5zfTtFf7yTJ5

Sofia Zida – Guerrera https://open.spotify.com/track/07hxHONV6ExTwpqqqIGnBJ

Want to share your own power songs? I’m always intrested in finding new artists!

Weekly Tip: Gratitude Journal

Weekly Tip: Gratitude Journal

If you do nothing else. If you can’t do anything else. Do this: 

write a gratitude journal.

I have been doing it everyday now since the beginning of January. I have tried before, but like with everything I have done in the past, took it too far. Tried to write a page full of things. In pretty handwriting. BIG things. It doesn’t work like that (well, not for me anyway.)

In my bullet journal I have a really teeny tiny slot to write down three things everyday I was grateful about. And for the first time yesterday it really paid off! 

It had been quite an exhausting week (and weekend), mainly because I was still not completely recovered from my flu and suddenly my hubby got a gout attack in his foot. If you are familiar with gout, you’ll know the  infection will make a person completely immobile until it’s cured. I missed some nice appointments I had made with friends and so on. 

In the past the clear signs of a sinus infection that appeared last night would’ve been the last straw.

Instead I did this:

I took out my bullet journal and wrote my three lines (and I will make an exception sharing these with you now):

– My sister-in-law took our daughter to a friend’s birthday party (so I saved a trip on the subway and bus with two kids). 

– My goddaughter (in lack of a better word) came over to play and the girls played so sweetly together it was a joy to watch

– Hubby’s foot is possibly on the mend (as he can actually sit for some time and bear SOME weight on the foot). 

And as I was writing my list I was filled with joy from the past day’s events and actually had a good and worry free night of sleep.

Concentrate on the good, do not dwell on the bad. 

One of my guidelines for the year will be the same as Gretchen Rubin’s: “Let it go”. Applies perfectly here too.